The Season of Love?
by Ancy Alexander
During this auspicious season of love, we all enjoy spending time with that “special” someone. But what really makes us stay with our boyfriends or girlfriends? Is it because they’re popular, hot, goofy, or just an excuse for you not to be single? Are we bound by things, as Renee Harrison suggests, like “marrying rich”? Is there ever a relationship in which the sole reason that a couple together is because both partners truly like one another?
Usually relationships start off by becoming joined at the hip. Texting, calling, and being together all the time. These acts are the sweet parts, with all the compliments and hanging out. But what happens when you actually need to start forming a base for the relationship and begin getting to know one another or even worse, realizing that the person you’re with isn’t really who you thought he or she was? Usually, we break off the relationship with some lame excuse like, “it isn’t you, it’s me.” But what about those people who are too scared to break a relationship? Are you one of them?
Also, how about those lucky couples who actually get along and are in a blissful relationship? Most of us envy them and sometimes, we don’t know if we are having the right thoughts, because we’re too busy trying to be like those couples. But, a lasting relationship says much more about a person than an innumerable number of hookups.
But what’s that? What is a meaningful relationship? Maybe it’s when both people want something real and not transitory. It also could be that little tingly feeling you get inside when you know that the other person on the other end of the line is someone who’s not going to end up giving up on you.
However, relationships take time and whole load of effort. “The willingness to compromise is the true test to any relationship," said Ambia Azeez. In other words, it’s not always going to be easy.
But let’s face it: high school relationships usually don’t last. And the truth is that there’s nothing wrong with unsteady relationships. “Most of them don’t last because they’re more of a trend and are ‘fashionable,’” said Ms. Rafiq. Some of us get so dejected by a breakup, but this is high school. We’re not getting married and we definitely aren’t planning our whole life ahead of us. At least we shouldn’t be.
Relationships are great, whether they succeed or end in heartbreak, but where do the best friends go now? Are they supposed to wander off into their own little corner until their best friend realizes they’ve had enough and it’s time to be single again? Are they supposed to just be that shoulder to cry on when the inevitable breakup occurs? After all, friendships last just as long, and often longer than, romantic relationships. “When my best friend got a girlfriend, he threw me away like an old Hot Wheels toy car. Despite all of this, even after his breakup, we are still brothers,” said senior Aakash Japi.
So let’s keep this light. It’s Valentine’s Day. So if you haven’t realized it by now, you love someone and someone loves you just as much. Whether it’s your girlfriend, boyfriend, or even your grandma, you got somebody. So with all this love in the air, make sure you tell your best friend that they’re still your best friend and maybe it’s time for some of us to stop moping around about being single and enjoy it!
During this auspicious season of love, we all enjoy spending time with that “special” someone. But what really makes us stay with our boyfriends or girlfriends? Is it because they’re popular, hot, goofy, or just an excuse for you not to be single? Are we bound by things, as Renee Harrison suggests, like “marrying rich”? Is there ever a relationship in which the sole reason that a couple together is because both partners truly like one another?
Usually relationships start off by becoming joined at the hip. Texting, calling, and being together all the time. These acts are the sweet parts, with all the compliments and hanging out. But what happens when you actually need to start forming a base for the relationship and begin getting to know one another or even worse, realizing that the person you’re with isn’t really who you thought he or she was? Usually, we break off the relationship with some lame excuse like, “it isn’t you, it’s me.” But what about those people who are too scared to break a relationship? Are you one of them?
Also, how about those lucky couples who actually get along and are in a blissful relationship? Most of us envy them and sometimes, we don’t know if we are having the right thoughts, because we’re too busy trying to be like those couples. But, a lasting relationship says much more about a person than an innumerable number of hookups.
But what’s that? What is a meaningful relationship? Maybe it’s when both people want something real and not transitory. It also could be that little tingly feeling you get inside when you know that the other person on the other end of the line is someone who’s not going to end up giving up on you.
However, relationships take time and whole load of effort. “The willingness to compromise is the true test to any relationship," said Ambia Azeez. In other words, it’s not always going to be easy.
But let’s face it: high school relationships usually don’t last. And the truth is that there’s nothing wrong with unsteady relationships. “Most of them don’t last because they’re more of a trend and are ‘fashionable,’” said Ms. Rafiq. Some of us get so dejected by a breakup, but this is high school. We’re not getting married and we definitely aren’t planning our whole life ahead of us. At least we shouldn’t be.
Relationships are great, whether they succeed or end in heartbreak, but where do the best friends go now? Are they supposed to wander off into their own little corner until their best friend realizes they’ve had enough and it’s time to be single again? Are they supposed to just be that shoulder to cry on when the inevitable breakup occurs? After all, friendships last just as long, and often longer than, romantic relationships. “When my best friend got a girlfriend, he threw me away like an old Hot Wheels toy car. Despite all of this, even after his breakup, we are still brothers,” said senior Aakash Japi.
So let’s keep this light. It’s Valentine’s Day. So if you haven’t realized it by now, you love someone and someone loves you just as much. Whether it’s your girlfriend, boyfriend, or even your grandma, you got somebody. So with all this love in the air, make sure you tell your best friend that they’re still your best friend and maybe it’s time for some of us to stop moping around about being single and enjoy it!
